How to Tell if You’re Compatible with Someone: 7 Signs They’re a Match

Some lucky couples fall in love at first sight, but most need time to figure out if they’re a match. Struggling to tell if you’re compatible with someone?

First thing first – congratulations on making it to this point! Dating in the digital era can be overwhelming, but you’ve powered through and found a potential partner.

As you sort out your feelings during this pivotal stage of your relationship, here are 7 signs you’re compatible.

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#1: Communication is easy

It may be cliche, but it’s cliche for a reason: communication is key. Whether you’re a brand new couple or decades into marriage, healthy couples can communicate about topics big and small with ease.

Can you figure out where to grab dinner, even if you’re craving different things? Can you get plans solidified without arguing? Can you share what’s on your mind without feeling insecure?

If communicating with your partner doesn’t feel like pulling teeth, you’re on the right path.

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#2: Conflicts get resolved smoothly

Having good communication doesn’t always mean zero conflict. In fact, even highly compatible couples can have a healthy amount of disagreement.

The important part is whether conflicts can be resolved in good faith and without hurting the other person. The goal of any argument should be to reach a resolution that works for both of you, not ‘winning’ or dismissing the other person’s perspective.

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#3: You feel empowered to speak your mind

Similarly, you should feel comfortable letting your guard down, being yourself, and speaking your mind around your partner. If you feel the need to put on a show to impress them or hesitate to share your honest thoughts, you might not be compatible.

Are you an authentic version of yourself with your partner? If so, you might have found a match.

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#4: You have enough common interests

The beginning of a relationship is a time of excitement and optimism. You may be envisioning a whole life together, but when the honeymoon period fades away, will you have enough common interests to sustain you?

One way to test for common interests is to have you and your partner outline your perfect dream vacations. If time and money didn’t matter, where would you go? What would you do?

If you plan similar itineraries (or would at least enjoy embarking on theirs), you might have enough in common to keep things interesting.

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#5: Your differences don’t bother you

But don’t assume that compatible couples have everything in common. While this can be true, plenty of healthy, happy couples are very different people.

The surest sign of compatibility here is if you can identify how you and your partner are different, and accept those differences without conditions. You shouldn’t strive to change fundamental parts of your partner’s identity, and they shouldn’t try to alter yours.

Can you live with your partner’s differences, resentment-free? Compatible couples can both answer yes.

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#6: You’re aligned on relationship values

One area you should share in common, however, is your relationship values. Compatible partners are aligned on things like the role your relationship should play, your level of commitment, and how and when you spend time together.

This can also include bigger life values such as religion, cultural identity, and family.

Without having these relationship values in common, you may end up feeling unsupported over time.

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#7: Romantic chemistry is natural

This one may seem obvious, but it’s too important to neglect. Are you and your partner drawn to each other with raw, natural, romantic chemistry?

In order to remain compatible long term, the answer must be yes.

Of course, it’s totally okay if you didn’t feel that way the second you met your partner. It can take time for chemistry to develop, so this question is for couples who’ve had the chance to explore their connection.

If you’ve given the relationship a chance and still don’t feel the magnetic draw, you may want to evaluate your level of compatibility.

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