How To Overcome Online Dating Fatigue (Yes, It’s A Real Thing)

Whether you’re overwhelmed or underwhelmed by your recent online dating experiences, one thing’s for sure – it’s pretty tiring. It seems ‘online dating fatigue’ has become somewhat of an epidemic, with 80% of users feeling burnt out by their online dating experiences. But why is this happening? And what can you do to overcome it?

What causes online dating fatigue?

With over 336 million people using online dating services in 2022, it should be easy to find love, right? Right??

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth, and here’s why:

Incompatibility

There’s an inherent flaw with most online dating services – they place too much emphasis on looks, rather than genuine compatibility. It’s only natural to be drawn towards people we find physically attractive, but if that’s the only thing that comes into consideration, it’s a recipe for disaster. And a costly disaster at that – singletons are spending an average of $1,560 a year just to date!

Longevity potential

The way we live our lives has changed a hell of a lot in the past few decades. Not every online dater has the same intentions – some might want a partner to settle down and have kids with, others might want to travel the world with their beau. A lack of alignment in life goals will eventually lead to a major roadblock or breakup, in the relationship, sending both parties back to the online dating drawing board.

Lack of honesty

When it comes to online dating, the rewards are huge and the stakes are high. The love of your life could be one swipe away, so a lot is riding on how you present yourself i.e. your profile. Unfortunately, the pressure of such a realization means many online daters are afraid to show up authentically on their profiles. Filters are becoming indistinguishable from reality, catfishing is rife, and people are holding back from sharing their hobbies for fear of being judged. And all of this inevitably leads to disappointment, burnout, and a general feeling of distrust in online dating.

Too much choice

We all have a friend who’s a serial online dater. You know, the one who proudly flaunts their 500 matches? They might get a 2-second dopamine hit from a message, like, or match, but deep down, they’re probably overwhelmed, and will never be able to find ‘the one’. Online dating brings with it the unique conundrum of too much choice. Users might enjoy a successful couple of dates with someone, but then think ‘what if there’s an even better match waiting for me out there?’ This illusion of choice ultimately leads to a string of failed romances, hurting a lot of people’s feelings along the way.

Symptoms of online dating fatigue

You might think it sounds a bit silly, but online dating fatigue is a real thing – and it shouldn’t be taken lightly. Here are the signs you might be experiencing it:

• Feeling overwhelmed by choice
• Going on many successful dates, with nothing progressing to that ‘next stage’
• Feeling lonely
• Feeling disappointed or misled by your matches
• Lacking motivation for dating

How to overcome online dating fatigue

We get it, online dating can be hard, and most apps out there are built in a way that adds to the problem, rather than solving it. The best way to overcome online dating fatigue is to choose a platform that offers the best chance of compatibility – where all users show up as their authentic selves.

As the world’s first and only online dating app that exclusively uses video, Verge is combatting online dating fatigue by banishing filters, fakes, and catfishes for good. Our algorithm can even save you from failed first dates by showing you a compatibility score for each potential match – based on things like hobbies and life values.

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